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To feed on a schedule or on demand – this is a question many new parents face. But before you dive into the pros and cons of each approach, consider the most important factor: Is your baby happy? If your little one is thriving, content, and not fussing too much, please do not fix what is not broken. However, if you’re dealing with a fussy baby and seeking answers, read on. We’ll dive deep into feeding schedules, on-demand feeding, and how to find what works best for your baby.
My Experience with Feeding Schedules
As a mother of five, one bottle-fed, four breastfed, I’ve had a range of feeding experiences: one baby on a strict schedule, three on demand, and one still in progress (currently 4 months old, leaning toward a flexible schedule). Early on, I often heard comments like, “Aw, she must be hungry, you should feed her.” It can feel overwhelming, but each baby is different, and with each one, I learn and you will too.
What Does It Mean to Feed on a Schedule?
Feeding on a schedule means establishing a routine for feedings and naps. A popular approach is to space feedings 3 hours apart, with playtime and naps in between. This routine helps provide structure for both you and your baby, and some parents find it beneficial for creating a predictable day.
What Does It Mean to Feed on Demand?
Feeding on demand means responding to your baby’s cues – feeding whenever they seem hungry, for as long as they want. This approach is more flexible and may feel less restrictive, but can be overwhelming for some parents, especially if their baby feeds frequently.
Newborn to 6 Weeks: A Crucial Time for Establishing Feeding Patterns
In the first six weeks, it’s important to remember that you can’t expect the same feeding schedule for a 2-week-old as you would for a 3 or 4-month-old. This period is critical for establishing your breast milk supply. Do not restrict baby’s feedings during this time – they may want to nurse often, and that’s completely normal. Over-pumping can also lead to an oversupply of milk, which may cause discomfort and even mastitis.
The Power of Colostrum
In the early days, colostrum – the thick, yellow substance produced by your body – is a nutritional powerhouse for your baby. It’s rich in antibodies, but it’s also produced in small amounts, which is all your newborn needs during the first days. On day one, they may only need about 5ml per feed.
Growth Spurt Days
As your baby grows, you’ll experience phases that may feel overwhelming:
- Day 2: This is when your milk begins transitioning from colostrum to mature milk. Your baby may cluster-feed and act fussy, signalling your body to produce more milk. It’s a critical time, but many mothers doubt themselves here – resist the temptation to introduce formula just for convenience.
- Day 14 (Two-Week Growth Spurt): At around two weeks, your baby will likely go through their first growth spurt. Expect more fussiness, longer feedings, and disrupted sleep. Remember, this is a phase, and it’s your baby’s way of telling your body it needs to produce more milk.
How Much Should a Newborn Eat?
Newborns’ stomachs are tiny, so it’s important to feed frequently. Here’s an estimate of how much breast milk your baby needs based on their age:
| Age | Stomach Size | Amount per Feed |
| Day 1 | Cherry-sized | 5ml |
| Day 3 | Walnut-sized | 25ml |
| Day 7 | Apricot-sized | 50ml |
| Day 30 | Large egg-sized | 80-150ml |
Signs of Healthy Feeding
Good feeding signs include a content baby after feedings, adequate diaper output, and steady weight gain. Here’s what to look for:
- Diaper output: On day one, aim for one wet diaper, increasing by one additional diaper each day up to day six. After day six, your baby should have 4-6 wet diapers and at least one dirty diaper each day (although breastfed babies can sometimes go up to 10 days without a dirty diaper).
- Weight gain: A typical breastfed baby gains about 150-200g per week in the first three months. Expect them to double their birth weight by 3-4 months. After this, weight gain may slow down as babies become more active.
- Wet diaper weight: A wet diaper should weigh at least 60g. You can use a kitchen scale to check if needed.
Signs of Poor Feeding
If your baby’s latch is painful, they’re clicking while sucking, or they’re falling asleep quickly at the breast, it could indicate feeding issues. Other signs of concern include a dry mouth, sunken fontanelle, or low diaper output. If you notice any of these, consult with a lactation consultant or paediatrician for guidance.
6 Weeks to 6 Months: The Importance of Rhythm and Routine
While every baby is different, many parents find that having a loose feeding schedule (around every 3 hours) works well for them after the first few weeks. Babies thrive on routine and consistency, which helps them feel safe and secure.
Example of a Flexible Feeding Routine for a 6-Week-Old Baby:
1. Morning Feed: Start with a full feeding when your baby wakes up. I give my baby about a 30minute window of feeding and burping, then ‘the kitchen is closed’.
2. Playtime: After feeding, give your baby some playtime (this is also a good time to do quick tasks like showering and getting yourself ready for the day).
3. Nap Time: Your baby will get fussy after about 1 hour. This is where I would start to consider not feeding to sleep. Try to hold your baby and soothe him by rocking and singing. Some babies will do very well with this transition. Others might fight you with everything they have, in such a case I will feed to sleep and try again in 2 weeks.
4. Repeat: After naps, feed, play, and repeat the cycle.
Growth Spurts and Sleep Regressions
Babies will go through growth spurts and sleep regressions that may disrupt their routine. Be prepared for phases of increased fussiness, especially at 3-6 weeks, 6-8 weeks, and 3-4 months. These are temporary phases that typically resolve on their own.
When not to try a new schedule
- When baby is younger than 6 weeks old.
- When baby goes through a growth spurt.
- When you think baby might be ill, have a col, fever or are unhappy because of cutting teeth.
- When you think your milk supply might be in a dip (such as around the time when you get your cycle)
Final Thoughts: Rhythms and Routines Are Key
Our bodies thrive on routines, and babies are no different. Having a predictable rhythm for feeding, naps, and bedtime can help your baby feel secure and improve overall sleep quality. While flexibility is important, establishing a basic routine will help both you and your baby feel more at ease.
Baby essentials that I swear by:
Doona car seat and stroller
Next2me basinet
Baby monitor
More articles about babies to read:
Baby essentials for the first 3 months with pictures
17 Ways to soothe a crying baby
Preparing for a positive, calm, birth
